Create a Life you Love

Have you ever woken up and thought to yourself, "Holy Shit- this is my LIFE and I feel INCREDIBLE?" That's exactly how I've been feeling lately! I swear I’m NOT taking any medications, just high on life and no longer taking it for granted! 

When I was 23 I chose to settle down with a handsome man, who was incredibly kind, smart and very giving. He would move mountains for me!  Being together for 5 years we asked ourselves what are we doing- get married or get out. We chose the first one, despite knowing it wouldn’t last forever. We were the complete opposite of each other- I was loud, out going, and an outdoor enthusiast. He was quiet, reserved, and would rather travel. The one thing we had in common was the willingness to do whatever it took the other person happy, despite not wanting to do it. Lesson learned here- don't always sacrifice your happiness for someone else, it will drain you.  A year of being married, we filed for a divorce. 

While going through the separation/ divorce process, I thought I had met my #SoulMate. He was HOT, fun, wild, laid back, LOVED fishing and the outdoors as much as I did. He was legit the male version of me! He gave me mad butterflies and I swear it was love at first sight! Against my better judgement, being lonely, in a shitty position, and he was also in a very shitty position at that time, we jumped into a relationship, because we believed we would never come across this opportunity ever again.  We both lacked communication, trust, but were so desperate to make it work. Over the 4 years there was lots of love, but also with came lots of tears, anger and resentment. We finally had to call it quits for both of our sanity. The lesson I learned here is – take time for yourself first before you try to make it work with someone else. Figure out your own shit first!  

I have always been a firm believer in learning lessons from everything that happens in life. This time around, I have decided that being single is the healthiest thing I can do. Focusing on ME! Coaching, working out and spending more time with girlfriends has been the most therapeutic thing for me. Whenever I feel like I'm having a bad moment, I put all that energy into training, and I come out 45 minutes later feeling like a rock star! Its crazy to think back how I'd let my emotions control me before. I'd drink, make bad food choices, and repeat it all over again the next day. Which lead to more shitty days.

Happiness is only created from the inside out. There is nobody or anything in this world that can make you happy- only YOU can do that for yourself. 

To create a life that I LOVE I first had to learn how to forgive, forget and LET SHIT GO! I've come to realize that back then I wanted to be on control of all aspects of my life- including how my spouse acted and what he did. I am a visual person, and this helped me understand my actions better: "hold out your hand, in a cup shape. If I poured sand in there, it will sit in your palm. Now, I am goingt o ask you to clinch your fist. The sand now seeps out through your fingers and thumb." The same goes when you try to control events and things in your life. It all seeps out through the cracks until there is nothing left. I've come to learn that I can't control what another person does. I am in control of my own feelings, and its up to me if I want to let shitty thoughts or people rent space in my head. 

If you can’t accept something- let it go! Know that you are fabulous and deserve to be treated with respect, and that person you are sharing life with deserves nothing but the same as well. Stop trying to control the things you can’t, and avoid negative people and drama like the plague!


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Lots of Love,
Krista xoxo